Counterclockwise Circles Around Me

I don't know why Cat is so weighing so heavily on my mind as of late.  I thought by this point in time that things would start to become easier, but I still feel as if it were just yesterday that she left.  Part of me wonders if it is because I am finally starting to feel better, and my focus is starting to shift again, so her absence is becoming more noticeable.

I have been reading a lot about the concept of a "heart dog," which is basically your canine soulmate.  Even though Cat was my first, I have a hard time believing that there is a dog out there with which I could have any stronger bond.

About 2 years after I got her, I had a restless night of sleep.  Cat normally slept at my feet.  Every time I woke up that night, she was up at my head watching me.  I thought nothing of it.

In the morning, instead of just sitting on the chair and watching like she normally did, she followed me all around the house, whining and fussing.  Once again, I thought nothing of it.

About 3 miles into my drive, I had some sort of seizure type event.  I barely managed to get the car pulled off.  I ended up spending several days in the hospital.  What really gave me chills, however, was when I came home.  Cat had apparently known something was wrong.  She spent days in my laundry and that day (never before and never again) she tried to scratch her way through the door and dig up the floor to get to me.

I used to love our routine of walking through doors.  We could never just walk straight through.  Cat always had to make a counterclockwise circle around me before I could go in - every single time.  She would be so anxious if she didn't get to complete that ritual.  Every time she circled me, I loved her a little more.

Cat had the best eyes.  I would give anything to feel them on me one more time.  She could appear sound asleep, but if I moved, she always shifted her position so that she could watch me.

I received "Angel Cat" as a gift.

 My heart dog, my canine soulmate, is gone.  

Grief

It has been six months since Cat's death, and I have been doing a lot of reflecting.

Losing Cat has not been at all what I expected.  She was my first bonded relationship with an animal.  We had had family pets that had died, but I wasn't particularly attached to any of them.  Also, I have been blessed to have not lost many people in my family, not even attending a funeral until I was a junior in college.

Obviously, when she passed away, my heart was broken.  I spent the first few weeks filled with sadness and disbelief that she was gone and was not coming back.  I felt guilty that I hadn't taken better care of her, that I hadn't taken her to the vet more often, that I had fallen asleep that afternoon....a million "what ifs" were running through my head of ways that I could have been able to save her.

I felt irrational anger due to when she died.  When Cat was diagnosed with diabetes, I had prayed that she at least make it to her "Gotcha Day."  That would have given us 10 years together.  She died one month short of that day, and I felt very cheated that I didn't get that extra month.  Would it have been any easier then?  Absolutely not, but I wanted her to still be there.

Then my grief received an abrupt interruption with my sickness.  And to be honest, when I became aware of what was going on, there was a part of me that was a little relieved that she wasn't there.  With being in the hospital for 3 months, I would have been constantly worried about her.  It would have been difficult to find someone to manage her care, especially with her being on injections twice a day.  That topped off with the "diva" qualities and need for Arby's would have been a lot to expect someone to take care of.

Now that I am home, I find that things have switched again.  I hear her in the house.  I feel her eyes on me.  I sense her presence - and then I remember she is gone.  And I get angry.  I am so mad at her for leaving.  She left me alone when I need her the most.

The last 18 months of her life I was little more than a nurse because she had so many needs.  My life revolved around her extra care.  And I was happy to do it because I loved her.  Now, when I am recovering and could really use her just to be here, she is gone.  

I would give anything to see those little eyes watching me.  To see that little tail curl and start to wag when I look at her.  To see her creep across the floor when I am eating something, knowing that she will convince me to share a bite.

But she is gone.  I am left with memories, her ashes, and a pug shaped hole in my heart.

An earlier medical issue

I apologize for jumping all around, but I wanted to share this because I don't know if it has anything to do with the scarring that I am currently experiencing in my airway. 

 I started my career as an elementary music teacher. One day while teaching a kindergarten music class, I put my fingers on my throat to show the students where to feel their pulse, explaining how music has a heart beat just like a person does. I was a little rattled when I felt a lump under my fingers. 

 At lunch I called my doctor and made an appointment for the next day. I went to the appointment, the doctor examined me, and she proclaimed it to be a swollen gland. I had no reason not to believe her, so I left and waited for the swelling to leave. It didn't. I made an appointment about a month later and had it checked again, and was told them same thing. Long story short, I had appointments in October, November, December and January; each one resulting in the same diagnosis. In February it was determined that instead of a swollen gland I needed to have my tonsils out, and I was referred to an ENT. 

 The ENT entered the room and was at least 10 feet away from me when he said, "I couldn't care less about your tonsils. What are you doing about that nodule on your thyroid?" I looked at him like he was crazy and told him it was a swollen gland. He informed me there was no chance of it being a swollen gland. Unfortunately, he was correct. 

 After undergoing a battery of tests, it was determined that I had multiple nodules on both sides of my thyroid, but there was one in particular they were concerned about. It was quite large and when biopsied, it had something called a follicular lesion. The doctor said that this wasn't a definitive diagnosis of cancer. He recommended a partial thyroidectomy. The surgical team would remove the half of the thyroid with the large nodule, and if they found cancer, the other half would be removed as well. 

 The surgery date was scheduled quickly. I was scared to death. Here I was, not even 30 years old, facing the possibility of cancer. I had the surgery and the doctor came in to see me after and told me they didn't find any cancer so I still had the other half of my thyroid. I had to stay in the hospital overnight, and a follow up appointment with the doctor was made for the next week. 

 Being young I recovered quickly, and felt much better by the time the follow up appointment came. I was sitting in the exam room waiting for the doctor, and the door had been left open just a crack. I saw the doctor stop outside the door, pick up my file, and take a deep breath. My blood ran cold, because I knew with that gesture he was gearing up to give me bad news. I was right. 

 Three weeks later I was back in surgery to have the other half of my thyroid removed. This time was far more painful since they were reopening the same incisions. My cancer was papillary with a follicular variant and it was stage 1. Plainly spoken, it is one of the least aggressive forms of thyroid cancer. 

 I didn't have to have chemo, but I did have to have something called radioactive iodine. Thyroid cells are the only cells in the body that absorb iodine. In order to kill any that remain, they have thyroid cancer patients go on low iodine diets. My doctor wasn't terribly strict, just basically no fish, but I know of some people who could eat very little on their plan. After so long on the low iodine diet, any cells left in your body are craving iodine, so they will devour the radiation when it is introduced into your system. 

 My radioactive iodine was delivered in a stainless steel container, and when it was opened there was steam coming out of the top. The technician put the pill in a cup and told me to swallow it, but "don't touch it." I was told that I was to ask to have the Hazmat deployed if I were in an automobile accident. I was escorted from the hospital and not allowed to touch any doors. And then when I got home, I was told to quarantine myself for a week. Precautions then included disposable kitchenware, triple bagging trash, and triple flushing the toilet. 

 Anyway, I have obviously had a lot of trauma in that area of my body already, so I don't know if some of the scarring is related to some of the earlier surgeries, or if it is all just to this last experience.

Set Back

As I stated in my first post, when my medical problems started, I had stopped breathing.  This made it necessary for me to be intubated and placed on a ventilator.  Obviously it was necessary to do this in a hurry, and there was some internal damage as a result.

The first issue was that both of my vocal cords have become partially paralyzed.  They aren't bad enough to keep me from using them.  I just sound like I have laryngitis all the time.  I have been meeting with a speech therapist and things have improved to a degree.

Another precaution that is necessary because of the vocal cords is to watch things in my diet.  For example, my liquids are all supposed to be what they call "nectar thick." You can also get "honey thick" liquids.  These liquids are mixed with a corn starch type substance to make them thicker so they flow down your throat more slowly, reducing the chances of them going down your wind pipe and causing aspiration pneumonia.  

Foods are supposed to be on the softer side.  It is recommended to not eat anything sticky like peanut butter.  If you have soup the broth is to be drained off.  It is a lot of trial and error to see what works for you and what is comfortable.

This brings me to my second issue, which is unfortunately much worse.  I met with a surgeon last week.  He put a camera through my nose and down my throat, as well as through my trach site.  (I have pictures, but they are pretty gross so I will spare you the images.)  In doing the the scope, he found that I have a significant amount of scar tissue that is blocking the flow of air between my lungs and my vocal cords.

I now have two options.  I can let the surgeon go in and try to remove the scar tissue.  He would also inject the area with steroids and other medication to keep it from scarring over.  While he was in there, he would also make any needed repairs to my vocal cords.  My trach would be kept in, but I would be monitored to see how my airflow was developing, and if things improved the trach would be removed.

If I decide not to go with the surgery, my trach will be with me for the rest of my life.  I will have to go every 3 months and have it changed, but it will be a permanent fixture.

I am not sure yet as to what I am going to do.  There are a lot of "ifs" with the surgery, so I have some serious thinking to do.